The Ideal Woman


Back in the day…(aka. high school…lol), I packed up my own suitcase for a week at summer bible camp. From the day that I met my counselors and a sweet group of girls I still follow on social media, to eating incredibly rich food, to playing bubble soccer at field games, to fighting for my team to win the camp tournament, to the last day when I received my certificate for learning all that I had learned, what I think will stick with me most is the wisdom that I received in every camp activity with my group but even more in each sermon session thing mobobber :).

On the last day of camp, our parents came to watch us all get our certificates. Before the processional of handing them out though, I was touched by what the speaker had to say. He first reminded us of how proud our parents and caregivers are of all of us. Secondly, he shared one last message on the topic of relationships! It made me think about how often it is, that we are looking for someone to spend the rest of our lives with, with a list of qualifications in mind. But how often is it that we turn that list around upon ourselves?

The speaker asked us the question of what our future plans are, whether it be relationships, family, or profession. I automatically thought of being a wife and a mother someday … probably because I’m pumped about it 🙂 . The speaker then asked us what we are doing today to live the roll we want to have in the future. Therefore, if I want to be a wife in the future, how can I develop and live out the characteristics of a wife right now? How am I treating my fellow brothers in Christ? If I want to be a mother in the future, how can I develop and live out the characteristics of a mother right now? How am I treating or leading those that are younger than me within the church?

As I first and foremost ask myself what it looks like to be a good wife, I not only look to the amazing examples of godly women around me, but I also find Proverbs 31:10-31 to be one of the most inspiring parts of the Bible in relation to this role. Though I may not be a wife or mother yet, I find this an important verse in terms of preparation! In my study of this chapter of the book of Proverbs, I have found a list of many ways in which one can be a good wife…as well as the rewards that she will receive from her family for doing so.

  1. She is found by her husband, she does not find him “who can FIND a virtuous and capable wife?”
  2. She knows her worth. She knows that she is “more precious than rubies”, “She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns” (the color of royalty, wealth, and status, as a result of hard work).
  3. She is trustworthy “her husband can trust her”.
  4. She is virtuous…(written straight out).
  5. She is capable….(written straight out).
  6. She makes her husband better “she will greatly enrich his life”…just as he makes her better too!
  7. She is optimistic bringing her husband “good, not harm, all the days of her life.”
  8. She has a hobby (apart from her husband and family)- “she finds wool and flax and busily spins it”.
  9. She manages her own needs “bringing her food from afar”.
  10. She rises early in the day “she gets up before dawn…”.
  11. She provides for her household “to prepare breakfast for her household”, “for everyone has warm clothes”.
  12. She is organized “…and plan the day’s work for her servant girls”.
  13. She uses wisdom with her resources “with her earnings she plants a vineyard”, “she makes belted linen garments and sashes to sell to the merchants”.
  14. She is energetic…(written straight out).
  15. She is strong…(written straight out).
  16. She has a strong work ethic “her lamp burns late into the night”, “her hands are busy spinning thread”.
  17. She is selfless “she extends a helping hand to the poor”.
  18. She is generous “…and opens her arms to the needy”.
  19. She is independent “She makes her own bedspreads”.
  20. She chooses a husband who can lead “…where he sits with the other civic leaders”.
  21. She is strong…(written straight out).
  22. She has dignity….(written straight out).
  23. She is confident and at peace with God’s plan for her life “she laughs without fear of the future”.
  24. She is wise “when she speaks, her words are wise”.
  25. She is kind “She gives instructions with kindness”.
  26. She values what she has “she carefully watches everything in her household”.
  27. She is unique “there are many virtuous and capable woman in the world, but you surpass them all!”
  28. She fears the Lord “but a women who fears the Lord will be greatly praised”.
  29. She lives by her deeds and not her looks. She is attractive entirely by her character “let her deeds publicly declare her praise”.

“She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future”

~Proverbs 31: 25

So, my dear reader, as the well runs dry for today, I must ask: Which of these characteristics do you see developing in yourself? Which of these characteristics are you (or is God) working on (within you)?


Sing a song for the soul: Gold- Britt Nicole

Published by Allison Nicole

Hello people of wonder! My name is Allison and I thoroughly enjoy writing as a hobby to destress from the craziness of being a college student. Between studying for class, working out, Bible study, and working at a local coffee shop, ya girl needs time to just breathe and let the mind wonder.

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